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[RCIX]

Huh? near as i can tell, this is saying that you think "i don't want you to be a jerk because i think i'll look bad if i don't care", which is not the case.

I can't unpack that sentence.  I've tried 4 times now.  I'm giving up.

Ok, i worded that really badly . Lemme try again:

Except, that showing someone how to be a jerk, is probably what someone who's overly worried about other people's sensibilities needs to hear.  People like that often need to hear that yes, there are people around who think it's perfectly ok to be "jerks," that don't even agree with everyone else about what's jerky and what's not.

Huh? near as i can tell, this is saying that you think that i think "i don't want you to be a jerk because if i didn't care, then i'll look bad to other people". That's not the case.

This sentence I understand.  My answer is: I have a rather different threshold for "jerk" than you do.  Which enables me to have reasonable discussions with people you would probably say are "jerks."

Ok, but can you try and tone it down and understand that others have a lower "jerk threshold"?

Clearly I could have, since I just did.  At the time, I didn't think about the concepts or unpack it in that way.  Instead I zeroed in on the OP's squeamishness.  It reminded me very much of people's attitudes towards porn, that watching or making it is "dirty."  Crudity of this sort isn't a big deal to me personally, nor people I have known.  I tend to forget that other people may have taboos about what can or should be said.

Thank you for your candor. And believe me, i definitely understand forgetting things (i forget more in a day than most people do in a week, it's kinda annoying >.<). All we want is for you to take an extra few minutes to re-read your posts and make sure that you didn't say anything that people might find particularly crude, rude, or insulting. And also not have as bad a reaction when people tell you as much

[bvanevery]

Huh? near as i can tell, this is saying that you think that i think "i don't want you to be a jerk because if i didn't care, then i'll look bad to other people". That's not the case.

You think that I think that....?   

Ok, but can you try and tone it down and understand that others have a lower "jerk threshold"?

I will make a concession or two.

[gimymblert]

Bvanevery you seem a very idealistic person who is sometimes revolt by people because they are content to stay in their comfort zone. You seems to have the urge to shake them in order for things to move. If that's so, calm down and listen, not everybody is like you, use your ideals to move not frustate yourself because you are alone in a road. Still those people have their own path which is different, they have different experience, they may not try to probe it like you do, but listen or made them speak, they say things valuable, you only need to made it your own. I think you are pretty close minded, having standard is good, but it does not make other standard less interesting. Show your standard and adhere to them, but pay attention to other standard, they may learn you a thing or too you may turn valuable. If you turn people off too quickly, you may not achieve your ideal, because no one can alone. Don't take things you think for a given, you have the type of ideals that should be drive by listening and strengthening his own term by actually giving credit to other standard. You have imply that reality TV are full of crap, of course the intention behind them are not the ideals of art, but what if they became infuse with that ideals? you may never know what breakthrough may appear. Writing and art, especially good art, always had learn from new non formed way of doing things. Abstract inform how to compose visually image, they made us understand how to make even more complex image, and at the end from all their dryness they had free artist for more expressive power, for higher art. Each things is important in the grand scheme of things. If you are that idealist, you should be less an taxidermist but more like an alchemist, to solve and to coagulate. TO do that, you should listen and to listen you should be more courteous.

Regards

 

[The Monster King]

thank you o great bvanevery for making a few concessions and lowering yourself to our uneducated and ignorant level

it has been an honor to be able to read your glorious opinion on these matters

should i ask the eunuchs to take the broom out of thy arse

seriously though i agree with derek id like to see what you did, failures might teach you stuff but a completed thing teaches you even more because you made errors in it anyway

like my stupid part part trie to illustrate you come off as a huge dick and not in the good sense of huge dick, itd be kinda cool if you acknowledged other peoples comments/inputs that arent agreeing with you or complimenting you

but yeah id like to see your stuff!

[RCIX]

Now come on, he may be rude sometimes, but he didn't deserve that...

[PlayMeTape]

What I can't stand in your posts is the general lack of interest in what anyone else has to say. Seriously, if your friend tells you to knock something off because you're being annoying do you answer "Well we obiously have very different opinions on what's annoying and what's not"?

Even if you might disagree sometimes you can compromise just to avoid making someone upset.

[bvanevery]

I said I'd make a concession or two, and I'm really tired of hearing about the rest.

[BMcC]

And Brandon... have you leveraged your experience and knowledge about video games, the law, ethics, politics, and human psychology into a vast personal wealth and/or a hot wife?

You know it! Oh, sorry, thought you meant me.